My sister in law is PREGNANT!!! Ahh – I’ve been waiting for MONTHS to share that news, and now that she’s posted it on Facebook and made it public, I can shout from the rooftops! My brother and his wife are expecting, and I’m going to be an aunt (the fun aunt!) It feels so good knowing that I don’t have to keep that secret anymore.
I’m so glad that my brother and sister-in-law trusted me with that secret. One of the things I find most important in relationships is loyalty, and I try very hard to choose my friendships based (in part) on that characteristic. For example, I know that if I tell my mentor or pastor something in confidence, it will never escape their lips and they will never “spill the beans” to someone else. They’re super trustworthy. However, we’ve also all been in those situations where someone has gossiped or shared private information about us that we didn’t want spread around. After that happens, hard talks have had to take place and in certain cases, it really damages relationships. Even when there’s reconciliation, it’s almost always hard to fully trust that person again.
Proverbs 11:13 – A gossip betrays confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.
Proverbs 20:6 – Many a man proclaims his own loyalty, but who can find a trustworthy man?
Proverbs 21:23 – Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.
Ephesians 4:29 – Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.
There are also many cases in which Jesus was insistent that His disciples or people that He had healed not share of the miracles that they witnessed (Matthew 9:30, Mark 5:43, or Mark 1:43-44 are great examples of this.)
Of course, there are instances where you should not keep secrets, like if someone is in danger or if there is sin involved. However, those aren’t the types of secrets I’m talking about. One website (www.inspiration.org) posted this advice: “In your life, seek to be trustworthy. Cultivate a reputation for faithfulness, both to other believers and the world.” I want to be a Christian that other people are comfortable talking to and sharing hard topics with, one that people can trust – fully trust. I want to be real, genuine, loyal, loving and faithful because my God is real, genuine, loyal, loving and faithful. My goal is to be a good representative for Christ, because that’s what He has called me to do – what He’s called all of us to do, in fact. Let’s take that seriously!
Erin Culleny serves as a Marketing Assistant and Staff Writer. She loves encouraging women through her Victory Calls and finds such joy in praying for her sisters in Christ. Her favorite activities include reading her Bible, encouraging others with scripture, buying new makeup, buying dresses, and eating at the Cheesecake Factory… In that order!