I attend a number of business breakfasts and have met some great women whose career is to be a life coach. I like what they do. They come alongside, lead, guide and hold their clients accountable. Life coaches grow and stretch their clients to achieve more then they realize they can do. They inspire, cheer on and encourage. They teach from their own experiences, share what has made them successful and what has not. They get to say the hard things to get you where you need to be. They also charge a lot of money per hour.
Here is what scripture teaches us:
3 the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— 4 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. Titus 2:3-5
I find it sad that, as believers and women, we are not taking seriously our role as a life coach to other sisters in Christ. This is something I find lacking in our day. If, as sisters in Christ, we want to do what Scripture says, the response can be devastating. Speaking the truth in love to a sister is getting into her business or you are told you better back off. Suddenly you are the bad guy. Oh, we like to be encouraged, but let’s not get too close. When taking the risk to say something that is difficult the response can be “Don’t tell me to do the hard things; you have no right to tell me what to do”. Looking for a life coach? In the past I have actually asked godly women to mentor me. I was surprised when they looked scared and shocked. Once I was told that they would pray for me but they really couldn’t do more than that. What ends up happening is we go and pay someone to do what the body of Christ should already be doing.
What do we need to do if we need a life coach? Be teachable; be willing to take godly advice; be willing to be humble; prayerfully seek out a godly woman to mentor you. Be patient, it might take awhile.
What do we need to do to be a life coach? Be teachable; be humble; be willing to share and give of our time. Understand that we have valuable life experience to share with someone else. Seek out a woman who you can come alongside. Lastly, we need to stop thinking we have to be perfect or know it all before we can do any of this.
My paraphrased biblical definition of a life coach is “disciples who have spent time with Jesus who are willing to go, be like Christ and make more disciples”. Everybody needs a life coach. We shouldn’t have to pay for it.
Kathy Withers is on staff at America’s Keswick and serves as Director of Partner Care. Kathy has been married to her husband Dave for 30 years. They have two adult children. Kathy is active in her local Church and teaches a Bible Study for women. Her passion is to encourage women to deepen their walk with Jesus Christ by finding and living out the truths of God’s Word.