Part 3 (continued from Thursday, November 21st)
For two days last week we consideed a quote from William Borden’s Bible, “No reserves. No retreat. No regrets.” Today, let’s consider the last phrase. No regrets. What does it look like to live without regret?
When I heard Dr. Mitchell share at summer conference my mind started wandering, and I have thought of this illustration numerous times since he shared it. The Keswick bookmark with this quote that came out the following month is displayed in my office. How I wish I could say that it is true of my life. We can choose to live without reserves. We can choose to live with no retreat. But what if we already have regrets?
How do we live without reserves, without retreat if we are already saddled with regret? You know what I mean, those things that pop to mind when you think about regret. Maybe you don’t have any regret but I would venture to say from my 30 years experience as a believer and 22 years experience as a counselor there are way more of us with regret than without. Your regret could be from your days as a non-believer or it is entirely possible your regret is from your days since you came to Christ.
So what do we do with regret? The answer may sound easy but it is anything but. Regret by definition is: a feeling of sadness or disappointment about something that you did or did not do(i). Regret is being disappointed in ourselves. Can we go back and change whatever it was we are disappointed about? NO. How do we live with that reality? Here are some thoughts:
1. Put it in perspective of the big picture
2. If it was sinful, confess your sin to the Lord
3. If it hurt others, go to them and ask forgiveness
4. If you have done these things then choose to release it to God that He may redeem it as He sees fit. God can take the worst things in our lives and use them for His glory. How He does it is totally up to Him; our responsibility is to simply be the willing vessel for Him to use.
5. IF 1000 times you have to remind yourself of His forgiveness, then 1000 times remind yourself of His forgiveness.
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9
Diane Hunt is part of the Development and Addiction Recovery teams at America’s Keswick. In addition to being a Biblical Counselor, she is a Women’s speaker for retreats, conferences and events. She is a regular writer for Victory Call and one of the authors of Crossing the Jordan Bible Study. She has been married to her husband John over 28 years. She has 2 adult children and 3 grandchildren and 3 adult step-children with 7 grandchildren making 10 in all. She delights reading and teaching, but mostly laughing at the funny things her grandchildren say and do.
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